How you dress and behave is about your personal identity, not about your sexuality. There is no way you can tell if a man is gay just by looking at him. You probably won’t know if a man is gay until he tells you. Decide on a time and place when you can speak openly and honestly, and when there are no distractions around. For others, it’s an unnecessary complication. For some people, coming out is a positive step. Telling people you are gayīe prepared for both positive and negative reactions when you come out. You may find you don’t identify with any labels, and that’s also okay. Some men who are attracted to other men, are also attracted to women.
For others, these feelings don't start until later in life. There are confidential services you can contact if you feel concerned, such as Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800.įor some men, feelings that they are attracted to people of the same sex emerge when they are quite young and continue into adulthood.
If you think you might be gay, it’s important that you: There is no test or questionnaire you can complete that will answer this question for you. Although there is no right or wrong answer to the question, a possible reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation. There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not.